If you’re going through a tough time and feeling lost, I want you to know you’re not alone. I’ve been there, battling my way through one of the darkest periods of my life.
But then, a glimmer of hope emerged from an unexpected source: my client. A person far wiser and more experienced than I. I value his perspective immensely, as his success is a testament to the power of his mindset and actions.
After talking with him about how to handle my situation, I decided to give his advice a try. It’s already having a positive impact, even though it’s a slow process. But as the saying goes, Rome wasn’t built in a day.
Here’s what he told me. I hope it helps you, too.
He said, “What you’re going through right now is essential to becoming the person you’re meant to be. Everyone who has achieved greatness has faced setbacks and rebuilt from the ground up. Some are fortunate to have support along the way, while others must fight the battle alone, picking up the pieces and rebuilding on their own.”
He went on to explain that life's journey can be summed up in three distinct phases: happiness, pain, and the power that emerges from overcoming adversity.
HAPPINESS
Happiness is about feeling good, being content with what you have, and finding comfort in your surroundings. We wish this state of bliss would last forever. But in this phase of comfort, we become vulnerable and forget life’s most fundamental truth: everything changes. What you have today may grow or diminish. However, when we become too comfortable, we lose sight of this reality.
PAIN
This is the phase where you feel lost, where living seems harder than dying. You’re exposed to life’s harshest realities, forced to confront the cruelty of the world and the true colors of those around you. You face a choice:
Option 1: Let pain consume you, drown in sorrow, and let negativity rule your days.
Option 2: Harness that pain, transform it into fuel, and propel yourself into the next phase of life.
The choice is yours, and it’s not an easy one.When your heart is shattered, your mind is clouded, and you’re engulfed in despair, making this decision requires every ounce of your strength.
Imagine yourself in two scenarios:
Scenario 1: You succumb to tears, lie in bed all day, and let your negative thoughts spiral out of control.
Scenario 2: You cry, but you keep working and building. You might still tremble with fear and sadness at night, but gradually, you realize you’re creating a path for yourself.
This resonates with me because, even in my darkest moments, I continued to work and fulfill my responsibilities. Though I’d break down in private, I returned to my plans and work each morning.
I realized that I was already on the right path, but the pain had clouded my vision.
As time passes and you build something tangible, immersing yourself in meaningful endeavors, you’ll realize you’re transitioning into the third stage of life: the stage of power.
POWER
Power comes from having money, resources, skills, and connections to build a fulfilling life and a thriving business. If you continue to use your pain as fuel, you will undoubtedly reach this stage. It’s only a matter of time. For some, it happens sooner, for others, it takes longer. But it’s inevitable if you keep putting in the work.
Now, Romy, the choice is yours. Do you want a life where you’re just an empty shell, or a life where you have everything you desire? I know you have the strength within you to choose the latter.
While temporary distractions like talking to others, going out, or keeping yourself busy may offer fleeting relief, but they won’t heal you. They’ll simply consume your time.
In today’s world, most people are preoccupied with their own struggles, convinced that their burdens are heavier than yours. So why not focus on yourself instead?
Use this pain as fuel to work on the app we discussed. Or, if you prefer, we can explore new business opportunities together.
Choose your path and work tirelessly to ascend to the next level. I believe in you, Romy.
This is a shorter version of our conversation. I contemplated it for a day and found it to be undeniably true. Aside from a few close individuals, no one truly cares about my pain or what I go through.
But I’ve come to realize that that’s okay. I’m the one who needs to take control of my life and my happiness.
I’ve started to follow my client’s guidance, and things are undoubtedly shifting. Progress is slow, but meaningful change takes time, and I understand that.
When thoughts become overwhelming, I either write down my emotions and then return to work or hit the gym for a revitalizing workout.
Remember, Romy, pain is temporary, but the power you gain from overcoming it can last a lifetime.
I hope this message resonates with you. Please let me know if you need help with anything. I’m here for you.
